There's a girl who I want but who I haven't reached out to yet because she hurt my feelings when she had sex with others while she and I were becoming emotionally close. She knew what she did was wrong because she lied about it. Anyways, in my dream she ended up dating one of my friends, but the thing is he's on the opposite side of the country and she lives an hour north of me. Plus she told me in real life that she does not like this certain friend of mine she was with in my dream. The dream got even weirder because we all slept in the same bed together but the girl and I pretty much ignored each other but we weren't nasty about it. In fact, although she was with my friend she got close to me in the bed. We were in what looked like a hotel room with a bunch of other college-looking kids (all the people I'm talking about went to college with me). It was like one big dorm room. Although this girl's head was close to mine in the dream for a period of time, we never spoke.
Dreams can often reflect our subconscious thoughts, feelings, and unresolved conflicts. In your dream, several key themes and elements stand out that can provide insight into your feelings about the situation with the girl and your friend.
Emotional Closeness and Distance: The setting of a shared bed suggests intimacy, yet the lack of communication and apparent emotional distance between you and the girl highlights the unresolved feelings and hurt from your past interactions. It may symbolize your desire for closeness while also reflecting the barriers that past actions have created.
The Presence of Your Friend: Your friend dating this girl in the dream could represent feelings of betrayal or competition. Since you have unresolved feelings for her, seeing her with someone else—especially a friend—might exacerbate that emotional struggle. However, it’s interesting that in the dream, despite being physically close, there is still a disconnect, mirroring your real-life situation where feelings aren't fully expressed.
Shared Spaces: The setting of a hotel room or dormitory suggests a transient or temporary situation, perhaps indicating that these feelings or relationships are not set in stone. It may reflect your current emotional state, where you feel caught between wanting to reconnect with her and being aware of the complexities of your relationship.
Subconscious Reflection: The fact that she is close to you in the dream, yet you don't interact, could suggest that, on some level, you still desire a connection with her, despite the hurt. It may indicate that you are grappling with whether to reach out or move on.
Ignoring but Aware: The act of ignoring each other yet being physically close can symbolize the emotional turmoil you're experiencing in real life. It may show that, even if you want to put distance between you and her after the hurt, part of you still yearns for that connection and is unable to completely forget or let go.
Overall, this dream seems to be a complex amalgamation of your feelings about desire, betrayal, competition, and unresolved emotions. It could be your mind's way of processing the lingering complexities of your feelings toward this girl and the impact of her past choices on your perception of her and the potential for a relationship. It might be beneficial for you to reflect on what you truly want from this situation and to consider how to address these feelings in your waking life.